This has been a tumultuous week for me personally.  I’m making a lot of changes in my life regarding the way I am handling certain relationships with women.  As a byproduct of this ‘change’  I have been listening to a lot of music that represents how I’ve been feeling. 

“What came first, the music or the misery? People worry about kids playing with guns, or watching violent videos, that some sort of culture of violence will take them over. Nobody worries about kids listening to thousands, literally thousands of songs about heartbreak, rejection, pain, misery and loss. Did I listen to pop music because I was miserable? Or was I miserable because I listened to pop music?” – Rob ( John Cusack ) –  High Fidelity

1.  Jack’s Mannequin – Bruised

I’ve been on a huge Jack’s Mannequin kick lately, So I could easily replace this song with Mixed Tape. But for now, we’ll leave it be.  Ironically, even though I’m feeling down, this song always brings me up.

Lyrics

Best part :

“I lace my Chucks, I walk the aisle,
I take my pills
The babies cry…
All I hear is what’s playing through the in-flight radio
Now every word of every song
I ever heard that made me want to stay
Is what’s playing through the in-flight radio.

And I, I am finally waking up

Hours pass and she still counts the minutes
That I am not there
I swear I didn’t mean for it to feel like this
Like every inch of me is bruised (bruised)” – Jack’s Mannequin

2. Flickerstick – Got a Feeling

This is one of those songs that I’ve been listening to for years.  The band is from Dallas, Tx. and they reach medium popularity nationally.  They have a few other great songs including Coke, and Beautiful.  But this song has always been my favorite. 

Lyrics

Best part:

“I got a feeling, it’s a feeling
That you’ll never understand
It’s like a rush to my heart
That I hope never ends
But it all depends
It’s a power such a power
A sensation that is changing how I feel about you
It’s all brand new
The fight is far from over
There’s nothing left to prove ” – Flickerstick – Got a Feeling

3. Matchbox 20 – Long Day

This is probably the most popular song on my list, but how can you have a list of songs without including Matchbox 20?  This album came out over a decade ago, but I still find myself popping it in whenever I’m feeling blue.  Some other great songs include How far we’ve come, and Push.

Lyrics

Best part :

“Reach down your hand in your pocket
Pull out some hope for me
It’s been a long day, always ain’t that right
And no Lord your hand won’t stop it
Just keep you trembling
It’s been a long day, always ain’t that right” – Matchbox 20

4. Counting Crows – American Girls

There are a ton of great songs about relationships by the Counting Crows.  They are one of my favorite bands and it’s hard to pick which song to put on this list.  Seeing as these should be ‘less popular’ songs, I left off the likes of Mr. Jones, Omaha, Long December, and every other great Counting Crows song that could be on here. Just go Buy their Greatest  Hits album and you’ll be fine.

Lyrics

Best part:

“If I made you cry, please tell me why
I’ll try again if you let me try
American girls are feathers and cream
Coming to bed so edible

American girls, oh
American girls” – Counting Crows

5.  Coldplay – Fix you

Like Counting Crows and Matchbox, Coldplay has an insanely large pool of songs to pick from… maybe even harder than CC.  I could have easily picked The scientist, or Warning Sign, or any number of other great songs.  If you haven’t heard this song, take a break and go watch the video on youtube right now. Both the video, song, and lyrics are absolutely amazing.

Lyrics

Best part:

“And the tears come streaming down your face
When you lose something you can’t replace
When you love someone but it goes to waste
Could it be worse?

Lights will guide you home
And ignite your bones
And I will try to fix you” – Coldplay

What’s your point of view? What songs have influenced you in love and relationships.

I’ve been having a very hard time getting over my ex-girlfriend… even though we broke up last October.  I don’t know what my deal is.  I really thought she was the one I guess… But I was wrong.  For the last 9 months I’ve still been hanging out with her on a semi-regular basis.  Which in retrospect must symbolize some subconscious self-masochistic behavior.  To be blunt, I haven’t even attempted to get over her.  Yeah I have met some other girls and had a fling or two.  But I never took any of it seriously because in the back of my mind I figured one day my ex and I would get back together. 

I’ve attempted from time to time to cut her out of my life, but havent had any success.  It’s like I’ve been addicted to her and I lack the self control to actually push her out of my life for any reasonable amount of time.  Yesterday however, I think things changed.

I watched Forgetting Sarah Marshall.

For those of you who havent seen it, it is about a guy who gets dumped and attempts to move on by going on vacation.  His ex is there with her new lover.  Hilarity ensues. 

From the moment the movie opened, I felt a complete connection with the main character.  In fact, I was the main character.  This guy and I would be great friends if he actually existed, and watching the absurd pain and torture he went through, and put himself through, made me realize a few things.

Kristen Bell - Forgetting Sarah Marshall

1.  My ex is a bitch

honestly, screw her. she is a bitch.  She has become a self serving manipulative brat who comes running back everytime someone new in her life hurts her.  I have become her safety net.  She knows I treated her like a princess and whenever she doenst get what she wants, she knows she can come back and i’ll give her the affection she needed.  not anymore.

2.  It’s her loss not mine

Hell yeah it’s her loss.  I seemed to forget that she dumped me, I made excuses for what happened for the longest time.  I wouldnt accept the fact that she had done this.  Well, it is her loss.  She keeps coming back around for emotional support, but what will she do when it is actually gone?

3.  Our break-up isnt completely her fault.  I could have done things differently as well

Contrary to number 2, I did do things to push her away from time to time.  Like most guys, I did have jealousy issues that took a toll on our relationship.  I also could have worked harder on a few other things including working out.  But at no point in our entire relationship did she ever doubt my love and admiration for her. so screw her. It is her fault. 

4.  There will be someone else

Of course there will be someone else, Hell there have already been half a dozen other people.  Why on earth concentrate on one person who has so little disregard for your feelings.  My problem now is that I’m running into girls that are fun, but not thatfun.  They just aren’t perfect.  But wtf, they dont need to be perfect.  At least they are there.  And since the break up, I have actually been going out and been trying to get into better shape, so that is a plus in itself.

5.  She’s probably become a slut

Now, I dont have proof, and I’d hope she has some self respect, but judging from her party pictures on facebook and myspace, she’s become a little promiscuous. It sucks when you’re jealous about your ex after you are broken up with her.  I hate it.  I’ve been trying to avoid checking her profiles but they always show up on my feed.  But after last night, who gives a damn, I just need to cut her out completely.

6.  My friends were right

For months, my friends have been saying stuff like “she’s a bitch”, “she’s a slut”, “she’s banging other guys”, etc.  they were all right.  It hurt to hear it, and its funny that it took a movie to make me realize what a bia she really was.  But she is all of the above and more.  People need to listen to their friends more.  They are usually right and typically have an unbiased opinion about the things that are going on in your life.   

7.  I am a good guy

Hell yeah I am a good guy, I’m a great guy and like I said earlier, there will always be someone else!